How to Talk to Anyone By Leil Lowndes
Leil Lowndes is an international best-selling author. In this book, she teaches us 92 little tricks to help us talk to anyone. The 92 tricks outlined in this book are chunked into nine parts in this article. Personally I’m going to focus on the tricks that I found most useful when reading this book.
Summary Part 1: you only have 10 seconds to show
Summary Part 2: What do I say after hello
So, learn something cool about your hometown to complement your response rather than is dropping a one-word answer like London the same tip applies to the question what do you do for a living the latest news don’t leave home without it keeping abreast of interests. And things that are happening in the world gives you plenty to talk about.
Summary Part 3: how to talk to the big boys
In this part of the book focuses on professional or socially important situations the nutshell resume. Just as you should tailor your resume for each job that you’re applying for in a conversation. You should tailor your responses for each listener.
Let’s take the question, what did you get up to last weekend the answer that you give to your boss to your mother-in-law and to your best buddy will probably differ slightly never the naked thank you avoid saying the words thank you on their own always follow them with a few words to specify what you are thankful for for example thank you for your time today.
Summary Part 4: How To Be An Insider
Crowd scramble therapy, there is nothing worse than being part of a conversation that you know nothing about. So periodically scramble up your life and try something new even if you’ve only ever scuba dive once in your lifetime. It will be enough to hold a conversation on the topic learn a little.
gobbledygook learning the language of other professions is a useful trick. I find the best way to do this is to listen to podcast that hosts the variety of guests the Joe Rogan experience has been by far my favorite podcast.
Summary Part 5: How To Be A Copycat
We’re just alike be a copycat. If you softly imitate the body language of the person you’re speaking to. It subliminally makes them more comfortable with you echoing. this is a linguistic technique where you listen to the speaker’s choice of words and echo them to create a connection.
Now don’t be a daft parrot. But imagine that someone is showing you their beloved car which they refer to as XI. You can also refer to the car as XI. So you’re both on the same wavelength.
Summary Part 6: The Power Of Praise
Grapevine glory, It’s so good when someone gives you a compliment. There is no better feeling well actually when you
discover that so honest complimented you behind your back. When talking to a friend of yours for example this Trump’s all. So the next time you want to pay someone a compliment consider going through the grapevine boomeranging when you throw a boomerang, it comes back to you.
When someone pays you a compliment turn it into a boomerang and send it straight back by responding with something like. That’s awfully kind of you you’re complimenting them too and everyone is happy winner winner chicken dinner.
Summary Part 7: Direct Their Hearts
Focuses on interactions such as phone calls where your body language has no impact talking gestures on the phone all of your smiles and your nods need to be converted into noise. Salute the spouse if you call someone’s house always greet the person who answers with warmth this trick should also be used when speaking to secretaries in an office environment the person who answers the phone is clearly close to the person. You’re trying to reach so it is a smart move to start creating relationship with them.
Summary Part 8: How To Work A Party
How to work a party like a politician works a room come hither hands keep your body and your hands in a relaxed open position. It invites people in the signals that you have nothing to hide. Tracking keep notes of what is important to people. Whether it is the name of their pet pooch or their favorite basketball team remembering this information and bringing it up in conversation is a winner and finally no bloopers.
Summary Part 9: Little Tricks of Big Winners
If someone fumbles during a conversation or makes a faux pas don’t call it out as it might belittle the other person people don’t like to be reminded of mistakes. So, be the bigger person and move on lend a helping tongue when someone is telling a story. And they get interrupted perhaps by a waiter taking your order. Lend a helping hand by asking the person to please continue. When the interruption is finished this expresses your interest and shows that you care.